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From the Publisher
Conversation with Dale Carnegie
If you believe in what you are doing, then let nothing hold you up in your work. Much of the best work of the world has been done against seeming impossibilities. The thing is to get the work done. —Dale Carnegie
The simplicity and clarity of Dale Carnegie’s thoughts have been guiding readers over the years—in both the personal and professional spheres. Having understood the psychology of a successful personality, he effectively guided his audiences and readers towards active self-improvement, as a cohesive life choice. Succinctly, he tells us how to hone our innate human abilities and put them to effective use. Be it salesmanship or leadership; communication or marketing; or happiness and fulfillment— Carnegie tells us how to make the most of our resources and achieve our fullest potential. Read this book which we have specifically compiled from Carnegie’s writings. Be the success you ought to be.
HOW TO ANALYZE AND SOLVE WORRY PROBLEMS
Will any magic formula solve all worry problems? No, of course not.
Then what is the answer? The answer is that we must equip ourselves to deal with different kinds of worries by learning the three basic steps of problem analysis. The three steps are:
• Get the facts.
• Analyze the facts.
• Arrive at a decision—and then act on that decision.
Obvious stuff? Yes, Aristotle taught it—and used it. And you and I must use it too if we are going to solve the problems that are harassing us and turning our days and nights into veritable hells et’s take the first rule: Get the facts. Why is it so important to get the facts? Because unless we have the facts we can’t possibly even attempt to solve our problem intelligently. Without the facts, all we can do is stew around in confusion. My idea?
No, that was the idea of the late Herbert E. Hawkes, Dean of Columbia College, Columbia University, for twenty-two years. He had helped two hundred thousand students solve their worry problems; and he told me that “confusion is the chief cause of worry.” LHe put it this way—he said: “Half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision. For example,” he said, “if I have a problem which has to be faced at three o’clock next Tuesday, I refuse to even try to make a decision about it until next Tuesday arrives. In the meantime, I concentrate on getting all the facts that bear on the problem. I don’t worry,” he said. “I don’t agonize over my problem. I don’t lose any sleep. I simply concentrate on getting the facts. And by the time Tuesday rolls around, if I’ve got all the facts, the problem usually solves itself!”
I asked Dean Hawkes if this meant he had licked worry entirely. “Yes,” he said, “I think I can honestly say that my life is now almost totally devoid of worry. I have found,” he went on, “that if a man will devote his time to securing facts in an impartial, objective way, his worries will usually evaporate in the light of knowledge.”
Let me repeat that: “If a man will devote his time to securing facts in an impartial, objective way, his worries will usually evaporate in the light of knowledge.”
But what do most of us do? If we bother with facts at all—and Thomas Edison said in all seriousness, “There is no expedient to which a man will not resort to avoid the labor of thinking”—if we bother with facts at all, we hunt like bird dogs after the facts that bolster up what we already think—and ignore all the others! We want only the facts that justify our acts—the facts that fit in conveniently with our wishful thinking and justify our preconceived prejudices!
Is it any wonder, then, that we find it so hard to get at the answers to our problems? Wouldn’t we have the same trouble trying to solve a second-grade arithmetic problem, if we went ahead on the assumption that two plus two equals five? Yet there are a lot of people in this world who make life a hell for themselves and others by insisting that two plus two equals five—or maybe five hundred!
What can we do about it?